10 steps to be a better couple

10 steps to be a better couple

1. Be realistic about each other

Don’t try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let’s face it,

Guys-there’s only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your girl a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And Ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you’re gonna have to do with what your guy like! Chill out; love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out

Now guys, I know this is not your favorite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the girls. Don’t make assumptions about each other’s feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you’re angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about. When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it’s the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourself in some shared activities: something both of you enjoys or is interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand in hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, DO> give in if your girl asks for another day at window shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for “that sort of activities” instead. If you’re spending more time with friends rather than your partner, it’s a warning sign that you’re drifting apart.

4. Meet each other halfway

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T- shit with the THE ROCK print, you shouldn’t kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy. There’s got to be a little giving and taking in a relationship. So learn to meet each other halfway.

5. Show your love

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5 years. It’s wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal; paint him a Valentine’s Day card. Knit him min-socks he can’t wear (for decoration purposes), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him. SO he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite sometime.

6. Respect each other.

Stop making jokes about her or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if it’s funny. If he has an inferiority complex about his height. Stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse. Love is about respecting each other’s feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past. Stop bringing up the past.

Girls, don’t bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. No guy would like their girl to compliment other guys in front of them. And guys, don’t talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in every other sentence as it would make your girl feel unhappy and she might think that you’re saying all this because you’re gonna get back with you ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on your jealousy

All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you’re gonna go through your partner’s mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations. You know something is wrong with you!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spread through in the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; Love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep your commitments to each other

If your partner is standing up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you’re in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don’t disappoint them if you can help it. It’s really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner and then calls to cancel it. Don’t make promises that you can’t keep. If you partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you. You may just lose him or her.

10. Be honest

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly! When we say” be honest”, we mean expressing your feeling clearly, not being bitingly cruel! When you’re hurt, say so, and when you’re angry, tell him/her without getting hysterical. If you can’t be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn’t worth it at all.